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So many children have Ipads or Ipods these days. We are plugged into technology from birth it seems. I am not discouraging the use of these things; many apps are wonderful at fostering the development of young minds. However, the successful child needs social interaction in order to learn conflict resolution, problem solving and powers of persuasion, as well as the ability to share. At PALS, we teach your child the skill sets of success and so much more. Come take a tour today!

How to Raise a Successful Child by Kindergarten

blog 1So many children have Ipads or Ipods these days. We are plugged into technology from birth it seems. I am not discouraging the use of these things; many apps are wonderful at fostering the development of young minds. However, the successful child needs social interaction in order to learn conflict resolution, problem solving and powers of persuasion, as well as the ability to share. At PALS, we teach your child the skill sets of success and so much more. Come take a tour today!

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 It takes 100 positive statements to negate every negative statement your child hears about themselves.

Make sure the words you use with your child are words of encouragement and praise, not of lack or fear. I am not saying to praise your child when they do something wrong. I will address discipline in another post. What I am saying, is when your child tells you they want to be president somesday, who are you to discourage them? If they want to go to the moon, by all means encourage their dreams and aspiration, no matter how wild you may think they are. Who knows your child could be the next...

Bottom line, it will be their job to do the heavy lifting in their dreams, it is your job to help foster and believe in those dreams and your child. It is also your job to help your child acquire the skillsets and tools that will enable the achievement of those dreams. Choose words of encouragement and praise.

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Bonding from a very young age requires contact, eye contact and an attitude of love. We instinctively bond with our babies a lot. When they eat, when we change a diaper, etc. You can also do bonding and even educational activities paired together. Infant massage when you change a diaper is a great way to end a diaper change with some focused time with your child. You can also do some baby yoga (think gentle stretching movements), do a fingerplay game (like itsy bitsy spider), or sing a song. There are all sorts of teachable moments with your baby, they slip by so fast, do not miss them or overlook their importance. 

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I have given speeches at quite a few educator conferences. I always start with a simple exercise. "Think of someone that you know who you think is successful (this can be anyone you admire from Jesus to your mother to Warren Buffet) and think of the top 3 skillsets that made them a success." I then take down all the answers. Not once, ever, has any one ever said reading, writing, or arithmetic. NEVER.

Sure these are prerequisites for success, but they are not th skillsets of success. So, why on earth are we focused on teaching mediocrity as the standard, rather than the skillsets of success? Mathematics lend itself to problem solving, but the skillset of success is problem solving, not the ability to add; a calculator can do that. 

Through my interviews with successful people, I learned what these skills are and I will be sharing tools and strategies to help you teach them to your child. Make sure you like my page. :-)

 

I interviewed Larry Bird, the great basketball player and coach, who sums up the skillsets of success in one word: respect. Respect for time; respect for others; respect for talent; respect for self; respect for property, respect is both given and earned, but the funny thing about it, is when you demand it without at the same time exhibiting those traits, when you fail to garner the respect of others you lose it. So, respect is kind of funny; you either earn it or you don't, and you earn it by practicing it in all you do. You can no more say to someone, "respect me" or "love me" both will not be true love or respect. Both virtues are given freely, but respect is only given to one who deserves it.

Ways to teach your child respect.

  1. Help them be on time. You must also model respect for others and their time by being on time yourself.
  2. Help them to use manners. "Please" and "Thank You" at a minimum, but also asking to be excused from the table or excusing oneself from the table. See my post on make it a game for how to teach table manners.
  3. Teach them to address their elders with Ma'am and Sir, unless they are on a first name basis with someone. 
  4. Teach them to respect property, and to treat their toys, clothes and other belongings with respect. You worked hard to earn the money to pay for those things, they need to know that these are gifts, brought about by hard work. It is for this reason, that I think children should have chores and household responsibilities. An allowance tied to the performance can teach them how hard they have to work to earn a dollar and how far it will go in the real world. They will not learn this unless you teach them early. I started earning things when I was 5, and it taught me a lot.
  5. Teach them to respect your spouse. My father would not tolerate any sass back, but my mother was a little more of a pushover. My father would not tolerate ever any sassy language or backtalk to my mother, ever. She was sacred in our household. This rule saved them lots of fights because we knew that we could not play them against each other, they were a unified front. I see so many friends who let their children talk back to their spouse, or even to them. Talking back is disrespectful. Allowing your child to do so, teaches them that it is ok to be disrespectful

Remember, the older your child gets, the less influence you have. So, you want to start modeling this behavior and making games to teach these behaviors from a very young age.

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